“They’ve pushed me a little too far. I don’t have to take this. This just isn’t fair!” Anger rises… and the body reacts.
Anger is not a bad emotion. It is a built-in mechanism that signals when something is wrong with a circumstance or situation. How we choose to respond when this signal goes off is where anger gets a bad rap with undesirable results.
When we are violated or hurt, we are often left feeling weak and fearful. Anger, on the other hand, makes us feel powerful as the surge of adrenaline and emotions increase. Most people would rather feel powerful instead of feeling emotionally defeated, and that is where the temptation to remain angry lies.
So, how can we use anger in ways we won’t later regret?
Ask yourself what anger is warning you about, and face what you’re really afraid of. It’s important to deal with the problem and take responsibility in areas where you are at fault — immediately. Ignoring the problem will not make it go away. Be honest with yourself by admitting that uncontrolled anger can destroy lives — permanently. Most importantly, focus on changing how you respond to others when you become angry. Determine ahead of time to maintain control of your emotions, and to use the moment constructively in order to bring about life-changing, positive results.
Someone’s anger abolished slavery, allowing people of all races to have a seat on the bus, which realigned our justice system to uphold our nation’s motto, “one nation under God.”
What is your anger accomplishing? Anger’s default is destructive behavior. Today, you can make the choice to use it constructively.